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A habit is an action or thought that we repeat often enough for it to become automatic. Habits create neural pathways in the brain (like well-worn highways that your brain travels on repeatedly), and they can be hard to change. It’s not surprising that complaining has become a habit for so many of us; our brains have a built-in negativity bias that predisposes us to remember negative input more readily than positive.
But not complaining can become a habit too—with willpower and practice. It takes repetition, dedication, and effort. And there are huge health benefits to making this choice! Optimism is a condition that can be trained in the brain. Studies show that optimists are happier, more creative, faster at solving problems, and have better health and longer lives than pessimists.
Kick complaining to the curb? These anger management tips:
a.Catch yourself and switch anger around.
You may be surprised by how often you’re complaining. This includes your words and your thoughts. Be in the process of actively speaking about what you want instead of what you don’t want (this process is called “reframing”). The same goes for what you’re thinking about. Have a stockpile of go-to happy thoughts to switch to. Or perhaps a favorite music playlist or pictures of loved ones. Change your mental state in any way that you can.
b. Find something to be grateful for to manage you anger.
Gratitude releases dopamine and serotonin in the brain, which relax the body, reduce anger, and feel great. Gratitude is a highly effective way to switch your mental, emotional, and physical state fast. Train your brain to focus on gratitude by spending the first few minutes when you wake up in the morning thinking about things that you’re grateful for, and do the same in the last few minutes before you fall asleep. Just as complaining trains your brain to look for more things to complain about, with a gratitude practice, you will be primed to look for things you’re grateful for throughout your day.
c. Don’t join others in their complaints. Moods are contagious.
We all know what it feels like after we’ve been around someone in a bad mood. And we know how others’ joy can rub off on us, too. This actually happens in our brains. This is because our mirror neurons, specialized cells in the brain related to imitation, automatically mimic the facial expressions, voice tones, and even the emotions of the people around us. Be a positive influence, and others will follow.
d. See the good.
Try to focus on what you’re learning from the situation. It could be that you’re getting clearer about what you like or don’t like. Or maybe you’re realizing you need to change the dynamic in a relationship you have. You get the idea; see the good in your current circumstances. Take deep breaths and release the tension you’re holding in regards to the subject of your complaint. If it’s a persistent complaint that you can’t get out of your head, try getting some physical exercise to pump endorphins into your system and distracting yourself with something funny.